"Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.."- Antoine de Saint Exupéry


It may sound like a cliche that one should live life as if every day was the last one, but I think we all go through life wasting time, money, wisdom and mostly lots of possibilities to learn and enjoy who we are and what we do. We often forget to be grateful for what was given to us and choose to see what we don’t have, and so life goes by in stress, bitterness, sadness or denial.

I used to deeply mourn the passing of my father and for many years I remembered the pain, loss and anxiety related to that particular moment in time. Each one of us has experienced concentrating on the wrong things I guess, it’s part of the journey.  But the other part for me was understanding that a life is not measured in its loss, but in its love and the way it has touched others. It’s not measured in tombstones but in the memories. How we touch others has nothing to do with the length of our physical existence. Nobody disappears, we are all part of the same fabric of time and universe as we know it and as we cannot even fathom it.

I used to feel so sad on this day but in recent years my heart is filled with a very serene peace. This morning the sun woke me up with a surreal shine and I have genuinely felt my father is here, with me, always. I am grateful for his life and love and he is with me in my heart, in my blood, in my soul and in the memories.

Have you lost a beloved one? No, you have not really lost them. Their life is a gift and blessing, rejoice in knowing they are with you, always!

For my dear father Ioan Galasiu with love.

300 words and photos Adela Galasiu, December 22nd 2018

7 responses

  1. “Und wenn ich tot bin, darfst du gar nicht trauern.
    Meine Liebe wird mich überdauern
    Und in fremden Kleidern dir begegnen
    Und dich segnen!” J.Ringelnatz 1936
    glad to read from you Ela!!

    December 23, 2018 at 05:45

    • This is so beautiful and true. 🙂 And me glad to read from you my dear André!

      December 23, 2018 at 07:43

  2. James Clancy

    This is so from your heart. You are a beautiful soul.

    December 23, 2018 at 11:37

  3. Your information is very interesting. Thank you for sharing

    February 22, 2021 at 00:17

  4. I really love your perspective. You did it well!

    May 19, 2021 at 10:17

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